Calling all Women: Be You.

I haven't blogged in awhile, so forgive me if I'm a little rusty! The store is coming along fantastically and I truly cannot wait until we are able to open. If you are a local, I'm sure you are aware of the Broadway street renovations going on in the Downtown area. With all the dust from the renovations, we plan to just keep working on making our store perfect before our Grand Opening Celebration. Time goes by quickly, so we will be open before you know it! I'll share more details about my job in the upcoming weeks.

With Mother's day just a few days away, I've been thinking a lot about my role in family and in life. (I know, heavy stuff!) My new job and the amazing ladies I have met through this process have reminded me just how precious and powerful my contribution to this world actually is. I used to think that little o' me couldn't really do much to make this big world a better place. Then I met some smiling ladies who are literally bursting to share the love of our Savior with others---and I was reminded that seeds are planted every day through my actions and kind gestures to those around me.

This life is not about how many church functions you attend, how many small groups you're involved in or even how many Sunday mornings you choose to go to (or, to skip!). It's about being Genuine. Being you.

Get into the Word, fill your mouth and heart with love for every. single. person. you encounter and stop focusing on being this person you think people want you to be. We are never going to live up to the expectations of those around us. What we can do is strive daily to be the woman God has planned for us to be---that loving, supportive, woman washing the feet of a stranger.

In the midst of me writing this, John literally threw up the snack he was eating all over the dining room table and himself. I immediately stopped typing and rushed to his side to make sure he was alright. The kid was laughing. He pointed to his juice and said "oops." Toddler Translation: juice went down the wrong pipe. He was ok.

Isn't that how life should be? Full of puke and laughter?

Be yourself, ladies. It's ok to laugh and puke. No one will ever be perfect nor should we try to be. We just need to keep loving Christ and loving others.

This outfit is all me. Messy braid and hat, flowing tee, black skinny jeans and sandals = Leslie Carol Hazelwood.

When the store does open, I want you all to know that when you come in to get styled by either myself or one of the other talented ladies, we will style you in something that you feel confident, beautiful, and 100% yourself in. That's what getting dressed is all about. That's what living is all about. Being you.

DIY: Forever Easter Eggs.

My favorite holiday is coming up in just a few days---Easter! I love decorating in pastels, dying eggs, and most importantly; celebrating the Resurrection of Christ.

John and I dyed our eggs last night, and they turned out adorable! This was my first time making "hand blown" eggs. Here's how I did it!

I found some brown eggs that we have had in the fridge for a couple of weeks and have been meaning to throw out anyway. If the thought of wasting all those good egg yolks drives you bonkers, grab a bowl to hold under your egg to catch the yolk once you start blowing. Better make some scrambled eggs for dinner!

My eggs. See the tiny little holes on the end?

Using a pin, poke tiny holes in each end of the egg. Take your pin and kind of swirl it around inside the egg to break up the yolk. Put your lips over one end of the egg and blow! All that yolk should squirt out the other end of the egg. It might be hard to get it all out at once, so you might want to use the pin a couple more times to break up the yolk inside.

That's it! Rinse your eggs and you're done! These eggs are fragile, but will last forever if handled with care. We decided to dye our eggs, although I think they look pretty in their natural state too!

This was the first year that John was really interested in dying the eggs. He was so proud of how they turned out!

Happy Easter everyone! I'm leaving for Franklin, TN tomorrow so I'm sure you won't hear from me until Monday. Have a blessed Easter weekend with family!

One Easy, Breezy Piece.

Can you believe this weather?? It's way too hot for the first week of April. Thankfully today it's supposed to be a bit cooler than 80 degrees! I wore this outfit yesterday for running errands with my family. It was cool and unfussy--just the way I like it.




Necklace: Self Made. Bangles: Kohls. Dress: Target circa 2009!! Basketweave Flats: Kohls.

When it's too hot to function but you just gotta get out there, I always throw on a dress. One easy piece that looks pulled together with some jewelry and cute shoes. 

This dress is one that I feel will never go out of style. The top is a thick cotton and the bottom is breezy linen. There's a reason I love natural fabrics!

Also P.S......I haven't worn makeup in a week and a half and it feels GOOD!

I'm off to wash my car and do some last minute errands before I leave town Thursday. After my errands I'll be in the kitchen most of the afternoon making ready-made meals for the boys to eat while I'm gone. I'm thinking a lasagna and possibly a chicken pot pie, yum! They'll be fed while I'm gone, that's for sure! Happy Tuesday, friends!

"We work hard with our own hands. When we are cursed, we bless; when we are persecuted, we endure." 1 Corinthians 4:11-13

Sex Before Marriage.

You might not know this about me, but I think it's an important reason why I have become the person I am today: I got pregnant before I was married.

There. The secrets out!

While I never intended to have sex before marriage, it just happened. And actually, I'm sure it's happened to a lot more "christian girls" than you think, they just haven't been caught because they didn't get pregnant.

While I do strongly believe that God intends for sex to be between a man and his wife, I know that I'm a sinner, and so are you. We all mess up. That's the cool thing about Grace. That's the amazing thing about Forgiveness.

If I hadn't gotten pregnant, I wouldn't have the best kid in the entire world sitting in my lap right now. I honestly probably wouldn't be married, either. God had other plans, didn't he?

I like to think that my past has helped mold me into the woman I am today. And, not to pat myself on the back or anything, I think I'm a pretty cool person. Dorky, but cool.

I have just had this message on my heart for awhile now. If an event from your past makes you cringe every time you think about it and you get this guilty or ashamed feeling inside-----just stop right now. You are an amazing, unique individual that God crafted in His image. He knew we'd screw things up, that's why he sent His Son. So don't be ashamed of anything. Just curl up in the Father's lap and tell Him all about it. He's there, waiting to hear all your crazy, embarrassing stories. He's there, waiting to forgive you.



Polka Dot Blouse: NY&Co, recent purchase, bought with a Gift Card. Cords: Kohls. Booties: Macy's.

 Another cool thing about Love and Forgiveness, I can wear crazy things like this polka dot blouse. And those that matter in my life, really don't mind. And those that do mind that I'm wearing this crazy polka dot blouse, really don't matter. Thanks, Dr. Seuss.

Best. Day. Ever.

Yesterday was an awesome day. Work was productive, my sick little guy was feeling better, I did a little shopping Lance Armstrong style (more on that tomorrow!) and one of my dearest friends was in town for a visit. I woke up happy, I went to bed happy.

I needed yesterday.

I hope I don't sound like a brat by saying that things just went my way yesterday; but they did. Sometimes friends, I get a little sad about life-- I start asking those "Why" questions about finances and building houses and cooking dinners and just the every day shuffle of life. I start to wonder about God's plan for our family and our future.


Scarf: Handmade by me. Fur Vest: American Eagle. Striped Tee: Gap. Cords: Kohls. Boots: Macys.


I had a weird crazy dream last night (probably due to watching The Crazies right before bed, not a good idea folks!). I love hearing other people's dreams but I know some find it boring, so I'll cut to the chase. Basically I dreamed that I was alone. No house or husband or little man. I was alone in the woods, standing on a rock. In the dream I just had this sense that I was alone and going to be that way for a long time.

I woke up just being thankful that I'm surrounded by family and friends that love me. With Christ, I know that I'm never alone even if all of these people are gone. I am His, the Creator's child; first and foremost. I'm a wife and mother and daughter second and God honors my commitment to put Him first.

I was reminded that this life will pass away, and Christ will remain.

On good days (like yesterday!) and bad days, my Savior is there to tell me that I'm alright. And so are you, kid. Don't forget it.

Happy Wednesday!

Merry Christmas from me, to you.

Merry Christmas Eve friends! Congrats to ASHLEY FOESTE!! You are the winner of the handmade necklace tree from Modern Core! Please email me and we'll get the details squared away.


To me, this blog is a time to relax and have fun, but I do want to remind you the real reason that we're all giving gifts and running around like a chicken with its head cut off.....


"for to us a child is born, a son is given; and the government shall be upon His shoulder, and His name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace."
--Isaiah 6:9.

Merry Christmas my dear lovely friends. Hold and hug each other close this weekend, and take your eyes away from the computer screen for awhile :) xoxo

Monday Top 10 Lovely Things.

Hey ya'll! Hope everyone had a lazy and relaxing Thanksgiving weekend. Taking a break from the Internet and spending time with my family was just what the doctor ordered, aka my hubs :)

I'm at a place in life where I'm running low on advice to give--so I fee the Sanity Saving Monday Tips needs to be suspended for awhile. We're going to try something new, called Monday Top 10. These will be 10 things that I'm loving in life right now, or that I'm thankful for! What do you think? Sound good to you?!

Monday Top 10: Lovely Things.

10. Christmas Decorating----even in the garage house!


And the stockings were hung, on the garage door with care.




Add a little Christmas Cheer to the bedroom with classic white lights on the bed frame.



9. Discovering a new, (and wildly affordable!) universally loved wine; Venta Morales Tempranillo. This Spanish red table wine is fruity and bold, perfect for Holiday guests! My favorite wine shop Primo Vino sells this wine by the case, and bottle price is only $6.99!! Wowza!!

8. Minnetonka moccasins are back in style! I've had my pair of "house slippers" for about five years, but now I'm busting them out in public. What do you think of the moccasin style?

Moccasins in the office....yes please!

7/6. Saving money on manicures by painting my nails myself, and my sparkly "coffee coozie" to make my spirits bright.




Nails in Essie's "Lady Like" and coffee coozie from Starbucks, $3.99.


5. My new bangs! Pics to come!

4. Cyber Monday deals: Gap/Banana are offering 30% off today, and J.Crew is offering 25% off! Know of any other great deals out there?

3. Our wood burning stove = eco-friendly heat and super cozy!

2. This song by Mumford and Sons.

1. Being reminded to "consider it joy whenever you face trials and tribulations, because the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, lacking in nothing." James 1:2-4

This week, if you're going through a rough time, know that God uses all things for His good--no matter what the outcome. xoxo

Guest Blogger: Emmy- Can You Hear Me Now?

Hi Friends! I'd like to introduce you to today's Guest Blogger, Emmy. Em and I met through River City Player's Community Theatre. She played "Naomi Farkle" in Faith County! Since the play we have become close friends and are growing closer all the time. Our favorite hang-out place is Starbucks, where the barista's get worried when we don't come by weekly! When she's not busy with her full time job as a Youth Minister at St. Andrew Lutheran Church, Emily is also a seasoned blogger on her site, Love Woke Me Up This Morning. She is also on Twitter and Facebook! Stalk away Facebook Friends! :) Welcome, Emmy!

Em and I before Faith County!

On Sunday mornings I teach two Sunday School classes. When you are a church worker - things like that happen. My second class is for elementary school age children, and we're only just starting with this class so it's pretty small right now. I have two girls who come pretty regularly and both are in third grade. Considering that I work mainly with teenagers, having to teach two third grade girls scared me a bit. I don't know what to do with kids under the age of eleven. But as time has gone on, I've really come to love teaching these two girls.

Yesterday, we were talking about waiting on God's timing and how we need to wait for God to work things out in his own way and to reveal his way to us. Naturally, one of the girls asked me "How do you know if God is talking to you?"

This question always stumps me. Other than actually trying to describe fully God's love for us - this question is one of the toughest I find answering. 

For the two little girls I talked about how if we get to know God (examples: reading our Bibles, praying, worshiping, etc.) then we'll be able to hear his voice more accurately. Even though it's not really an audible voice. You just... know he's talking to you. I also shared that God talks to us through friends and family, music, books, the Bible, and through other things as well. Thankfully, the girls accepted that answer and we moved on.

But I can't help but wonder, is that really how it goes? The more we read our Bibles, worship, and pray, the better we'll hear God's voice? It makes sense. But I can't help but think about people in the Bible who may or may not have done these things and still heard him.

Like Abraham. He actually was an idol worshiper when God called him - and they didn't have the scriptures then - so I'm pretty sure he didn't hear God's voice because he prayed all the time.

Or Moses. Was he always a faithful follower and therefore able to accurately hear God's voice? Granted - having a burning bush right in front of you helps.

What about Elijah? He was a faithful man, but the Bible says he heard God in the sound of a gentle whisper. I don't know about you, but I have bad hearing sometimes and whispers are hard to catch.

Yet, I know it happens. I know that God speaks to us all of the time. It may not be an audible voice (even if that's what we want), but he still speaks to us. Sometimes for me it's in silence, something my heart I think is telling me, through holy communion, through my friends and family, through books, through music...

So I ask you all, how do you personally know when God is talking to you? What ways does he speak to you? If someone were to ask you about how God communicates, how would you answer?

Event Spotlight: H.O.W? Jewelry Soiree

Hey! Hope everyone is having a great Tuesday. I'm excited about Friday already (anyone else?)! I'll be pouring wine at "The Soiree" showcasing HOW? Jewelry.

"HOW? Jewelry is handmade by African women striving to break the cycle of poverty. Many of them are widowed and live with HIV/AIDS or are caring for orphaned children. We purchase the jewelry from the women at fair market value and then sell it in North America. A portion of all profits are re-invested into improving the lives of women and children living in poverty." -from the HOW? website.

This is truly a great company with an amazingly passionate mission. The comany president is Raelenna Ferguson, a friend of mine who lives here in Southeast Missouri. Raelenna makes no profit whatsoever for all the work she does organizing the sale of this jewelry. HOW? Jewelry is also a partner with Heart for Africa, another Christ-centered company that I whole-heartedly support.

We will be pouring South African wines Friday with some local wines as well, mostly Montelle Augusta.

The event will be from 6-9pm this Friday, September 30th at the Walden Park Townhouse in Cape Girardeau. There will be over 3,000 pieces of jewelry for sale, as well as the wine tasting and appetizers.

I'll be there pouring wine and wearing some of my pieces of HOW? Jewelry, including this hand-carved wooden cuff bracelet. If you go to the website, they have some pieces for sale, but there will be much more to choose from at the party Friday.



Me and my favorite ceramic pumpkin and mums. Fall is here!

 This piece is perfect for casual plaid shirts and jeans. It makes the entire outfit unique, don't you think? The cuff was only $20 and there will be pieces like mine for sale Friday, come check them out! Also if you can't make the wine tasting, there will be another chance to check the jewelry out Saturday morning from 9-noon.

Handmade Spotlight: LilyWhite Designs

Good Monday morning to you! I wanted to share with you my love for a handmade designer, LilyWhite.

I met sweet Abbie through a mutual friend one day over dinner and she gave me her business card. I knew I liked her instantly because of her

 a.) sweet, outgoing personality
b.) love of all things Jesus
c.) her amazingly beautiful hairstyle.

I don't know why it took me so long to call and order a dress from her, but I'm so happy that I finally picked up the phone, err email. Ordering was simple, I sent my measurements/sizes, an idea of what I wanted....and BAM she produced a one of a kind, Jesus garment just for me. It fits perfectly, and is way more beautiful than I could have imagined.



Front View.



Back View. Beautiful witnessing tool.



The dress is made using vintage fabrics so is delicate, but should wash well by hand. Abbie also included with the price of the dress a removable belt and handmade brooch.

Check out LilyWhite's website here for ordering info and prices.

Read Abbie's blog to learn more about her heart for Jesus and how she spends her days.

and see LilyWhite Designs on facebook to see samples of their work and customer reviews.

Have you ran across any Jesus loving designers lately? Please share! We need to be supporting our brothers and sisters in Christ!

"My Job Sucks" and other things you really shouldn't say to the universe.

Raise your hand if you hate your job.


Now raise your hand if you were too embarrassed to raise your hand before but still hate your job.


Ok, Good. Now raise your hand if you have ever had a job that sucked but now are truly doing something you love.


I estimate that pretty much everyone falls into one of the three categories above.


Probably college/highschool students who work at Taco Bell fall into category 1. (Taco Bell is just an example, and I'm not implying that everyone at Taco Bell hates their job. Someone who works there has to love it, or else they wouldn't still be in business.) Anyway, category 1 folks hate their job and aren't afraid to admit it because, honestly, they know and their boss knows that they'll eventually quit and go onto something they love.

The people who slide into category 2 are a little more reserved. There are recent college grads, middle aged folks, and senior citizens who are all reluctant to tell anyone that they hate their job but secretly do. They are basically just working for a paycheck. Or benefits. Or both. They work because they have to, not because it's their DREAM JOB or because they grew up knowing that they would someday be doing this specific profession. They have a family to provide for, and are humbly working so that their loved ones can have a great life.

And then there's category 3. Those few select individuals who are blessed enough to be doing a job that makes them want to get out of bed in the morning. It's a job that makes them truly happy. THE job of a lifetime. What more can I say? These people are so happy they make me a little sick, or jealous, or both.

Now, I'm not going to tell you which category I fall into, I'll let you speculate on that one.

I'm writing this for those category 1 and 2 folks. Those friends who are still fantasizing about their dream job that may or may not ever actually happen.

The point is, God has us where we are for a reason. We are working for a greater purpose, not for our own. If we are constantly complaining about our job and about what we're doing here on this earth, do you think that's fulfilling God's purpose? Or being in any way a loving, joy-filled, Christ-like example? What about your co-workers who don't know Christ...how is you being in a crappy mood going to lead them to the Lord?

I'm right there, friends. I'm the one with the ugly frown on my face, reluctantly doing things on a daily basis because I have to.

But everyone has those days where they are tired. They just want to give up and quit and move to a remote island and harvest coffee beans all day.........What? You don't have that fantasy? It may not be farming or moving to a remote island but you have a fantasy of your own. That "dream job" fantasy. Take heart, my friends. God is not going to leave you hangin'. You may not see the point of it all currently, but God's going to use you where you are, right here and now.


Here's a little song to encourage you, because it encouraged me. Yes, it's Steven Curtis Chapman, and yes it's a little cheesy. But hey, he's like THE contemporary Christian music Godfather so show him some r-e-s-p-e-c-t. Listen to the actual words of the song, because they will make you feel better about where you are and why you're doing-what-you're-doing.

Don't just work; love. Have a great day, everyone.

Sanity Saving Monday Tip: Is it really all about the Benjamins??

I hate money. I really do.

I don't like how it makes you take for granted what you already have.

I don't like how it competes for affection.

I don't like how it's used in poor ways.

I don't like how it makes me feel.

Money makes people feel snobby.  It can make you feel inadequate, unworthy, or sub-par. Money seems to do more harm than good, I'd say. But we need money, right?

I need money to pay bills.

I need money to feed my coffee addiction.

I need money to give gifts.

I need money to conduct business.

Wouldn't it be great if we didn't need money to do all those things? If we could just pay for goods and services with other goods or services?

I actually heard someone say recently "When I have a car I like, then I'll feel like I'm on the right track. When I have a job that pays what I want it to pay, then I'll have it made." Do you see something wrong with this? Me too.

I hate how money makes people feel like they aren't as good as everyone else, or that they haven't "made it" to where they want to be.

I've been thinking a lot about money lately. It takes money to get into the real estate business like my husband and I are currently trying to do. We have to have a down payment to buy a rental house, then we have to have a loan from the bank to make improvements on the property, then we have to find the best interest rate, and so on and so forth. Money money money. Can I just vent a little here and say that I don't like all this? I mean, does growing up really have to be about moving "up" as well? 

What if all the money we made, actually went to someone else, instead of to "move up" in our business? Who says we can't be satisfied with what we have? Why do we need more and more and more?

My Sanity Saving Tip: Don't let having money or the lack thereof make you forget what your purpose is. Share Jesus. Give to those who need. If you have more, give more. Do your part in sharing Christ's love.

Pray that you can conduct your business in a manner that is wholesome and humble. Don't get too far ahead of yourself.

Stop, smell the flowers, and think about the best way to utilize your money.

Have a good Monday, friends.

"Adjust your Attitude to Gratitude"

I am LOVING helping with CBC's Vacation Bible School this year. All of the songs, including "Adjust your Attitude" are so catchy and fun! I play "Chef Penelope" in the opening and closing skits....LOVE IT! Thank you to all the workers and my fellow cast mates Robyn and Mark. I know God is working in some sweet kiddos lives this week!

As Pastor James Green said....."testimonies of adults often begin with "I remember that one summer at VBS when I first heard from God..." God can and does work in the lives of children!

If you are interested in sending your child to VBS, it's not too late! They can come with me today, tomorrow and Friday! I'd be happy to take them and stay with them if you have to work.

Also, thank you to my boss for allowing me to be off work in the mornings so I can be a part of VBS. Not every job would be willing to do that. I'm reminded that I need to "Adjust my Attitude to Gratitude" and thank God for everything in my life.....including my job!

Thanks also to my good friend Julie Hughes for letting me borrow her authentic Chef outfit. The kids really love the hat! :)

Are you a lady? Then act like one.

Do you feel like it's too much work to have guests in your home? Do you have certain friends that you would rather not visit because you will end up working instead of enjoying being a guest? Have you ever punched someone in the face for texting during dinner? (I may or may not be guilty of that last one hehe...)

I've had so many conversations about etiquette the past few weeks I wanted to share some of my favorite resources on the subject. This in no way means that I'm an etiquette expert, because I'm a young mom and wife so I'm learning as well. These are just some bits of information that have either been passed down to me from my family, or that I've read through research. I know of some lovely ladies that are going to be very proud of this post :)

So, let's get to it. Here is my list of Top 10 Etiquette Tips and the reasons behind them. Also included are some lovely books and websites to check out. Don't take my word for it, hear what the experts have to say!

TIP #1: Don't be afraid to ask for help, in moderation.
When you're having guests in your home, it's perfectly acceptable to ask them to bring a dish to accompany your dinner. Do not expect that guest to help with any of the other dinner preparations. They are a guest and should feel relaxed (and not feel forced to help further). It is alright to ask them to help with clean-up, but nothing extensive. If they want to put their dish into the dishwasher that's fine, but don't make them stand over the sink and wash the burnt cheese off your casserole dish. This is YOUR home, YOU invited them over, so YOU take on the responsibility of the work. Actually, I find it's best to do the clean-up after all the guests are gone so they don't feel compelled to help me at all.

Of course, during instances of illness or newborns and things of that nature, it's alright to ask guests to go the extra mile. In those circumstances the reason they are there is to help, so let them.

“Etiquette is not about impressing people, it is about using kindness, courtesy, and respect in every part of our daily lives.” - Melenie Broyles of Etiquette Saint Louis

TIP #2: Be sensitive to your guests' preferences.
If you are having a dinner party, and there are people in attendance who are uncomfortable with alcohol being served, DON'T SERVE IT. Having alcohol with your dinner is not nearly as important as connecting with your guests. It is also courteous to ask before hand if your guests have any allergies, or meal preferences. If they don't eat meat, that doesn't mean you can't serve it, but you should make a few extra vegetable-only dishes so they don't feel uncomfortable, or leave your home hungry.

"Have a dinner that is well planned, well prepared, and welcoming." - The Etiquette Scholar

TIP #3: Don't answer a call, or text, or surf the Internet, or LOOK at your phone at the dinner table. Period.
It's rude and inconsiderate. Need I say more? See the Huffington Post's Top 10 Cell Phone Etiquette Rules.

The only exception to this rule is if you're at our monthly SEMO Bloggers Meeting :)

TIP #4: Don't text, or email, or facebook, or tweet anything you wouldn't say to someone face to face.
If you're too afraid to talk about the subject in person, chances are it could be offensive or hurt someones feelings. If you have something you need to get off your chest, think first of the other persons needs, then your own. Look to the Bible for this one, folks:

"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." Ephesians 4:29.

TIP #5: For Pete's sake, write a friggin' thank you card.
Society has definitely let this important and polite gesture fall to the waist side. I have been to one to many weddings and/or baby showers in the past few years and not received a thank you note for my well thought out gift. To me, this implies that my gift was expected, and one should NEVER expect a gift from anyone. I don't care what the occasion. I remember when my mother would sit down and make me write out notes to all my friends who came to my birthday party, simply thanking them for their attendance. Young Moms out there: Teach your kids to write notes. It says a lot for their character, and your parenting skills.

Do you think that I'm being too old fashioned here? Check out Emily's Post for when to send a thank you card. She's a lot more strict about it that me.

Speaking of gifts, I'm probably about to offend some people on this next tip. And I will say that for my baby shower, I was guilty of this etiquette "Don't" as well:
TIP #6: It's rude to put where you're registered, or that you want "Gift Cards Only" on your event invitation.
Are you feeling offended and shocked? Ok, hear me out on this one.

I'm not saying that it's wrong to register for gifts, I'm just saying that you should not put it on the invitation. If someone wants to get you something from your registry, they can call the hostess to find out where you're registered. I'd say probably 80% of the time people do not get you gifts from your registry. Elderly people see it as a hassle and also as rude. (Don't believe me? Ask my Nana) Also, for people that can't afford a gift at all, they will feel that they should not come to your shower or party because they can't afford to get you a gift, and because you've indicated where they want you to buy from they feel like they are inclined to do so. This is WRONG. You're having this shower or party to celebrate your wedding, or your new baby, and to share excitement with those you love. Expecting a gift in return for that is just not right. Of course people will bring you gifts, but saying "Gift Cards to Target Only" is like saying: "If you get me something else, I won't like it or appreciate it." What the crap?

I did put where I was registered on my baby shower invitation, against my mother's request. After some research, I don't think I was correct in doing so.

I know you're thinking that if you don't indicate where you're registered, you'll get a whole bunch of stuff you don't want. Ever heard of a return policy? Utilize it. It's far more important for your guests to feel comfortable and have fun than worry about getting you a gift.

Ok. I know that was a little harsh. Here are some resources of other people who agree with me. Some think that it's acceptable to put where you're registered on your shower invitation but not your actual wedding invitation......I'm not sure that's appropriate either but whatever. Now you know my opinion about registries but don't think that I'll hate you and not come to your shower.....just know that I probably won't use your registry :) I like to give gifts that I think are special, or that are handmade and from the heart.

• Tried and True: Wedding Registry Etiquette
• Life Tools for Women: This site says that it is ok to include on a baby shower invitation where you're registered, but it is not recommended. Registry should be shared by word of mouth so as not to offend anyone.
• Listverse: Top Ten Lost Rules of Etiquette. Check out number 7.

TIP #7: Don't throw around your money, or lack thereof.
This could also be included with "no name dropping." Whether you have money or properties or a thriving business or know someone who does, don't promote what you have or what your friends have in conversation. Money talk used to be taboo back in the day, but now people just like to pat themselves on the back for a job well done instead of giving God the glory or lifting others achievements higher than their own. Also, don't you just hate it when someone says "My friend on the City Council" or "My brother in law's best friend owns 5 banks" and the like? Doesn't that just make them seem.....rude? I don't know, this one is tricky because we all like to tell a good story or talk about our recent achievements. It's honestly probably just safer not to talk business or money at all. What do you think?

TIP #8: Tweets and Facebook Status' should not tell your whole life story.
Please don't announce on Facebook that you hate life and everyone around you. Please don't tweet about the fight you had with your husband. While you're at it, please please please don't upload a picture of your tongue down someones throat. Be discreet. Be kind. Be sincere, but don't reveal everything. Share your problems or anxieties with those closest to you, not the entire universe. I'm not saying be fake, because I've definitely tweeted "having a bad day, could use prayer" before. I'm just saying that in the end people will respect you more if you are discreet with your emotions.

TIP #9: Do something for someone unexpectedly, and DON'T expect anything in return.
Have you ever been invited to someones house, and then thought "Oh, geez. Now I need to invite them over." Or, "I gave her a birthday gift, can't wait to see what she'll get for me!"? I'd say the majority of us have. I have a problem myself with accepting gifts from others and then making a mental note to repay them. True friends, who give out of love, should never expect anything in return. (except, for maybe, a handwritten thank you note!) This is about changing your entire perspective on giving. We have become a society full of selfish motives. Once you begin to change your thoughts on giving, you will see that your true reward is not on this Earth, but in Heaven. Don't expect to be rewarded for giving. Expect to be loved.

Check out this sermon from my pastor, Dan Greene, on Fixing Fractured Friendships. He talks about valuing people over possessions, and notes that other believers are to be considered and treated as family.

TIP #10: Don't just preach your opinions; live them.
Really, just be yourself. Live a life that is glorifying to God, that thinks of others as more important. My motto:

"Don't be selfish; don't live to make a good impression on others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourself. Don't just think about your own affairs, but be interested in others too, and in what they are doing." -Phil 2:3-4

Etiquette is not about impressing people. It's about making others feel comfortable, secure, and valued.

Remember, I'm not perfect either. I fail everyday. Pray for God to show you the difference between what's appropriate and what's not in every situation.

Is your opinion different than mine? I want to hear from you!

Love you all, have a good Wednesday,
Les

I love being a child.

You are from God, little children, and have overcome them; because greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world. They are from the world; therefore they speak as from the world, and the world listens to them. We are from God; he who knows God listens to us; he who is not from God does not listen to us. By this we know the spirit of truth and the spirit of error. Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

1 John 4: 4-8

Swap Meet and the end of my 40 Day Fast

Hey Everyone! Welp, I survived my 40 day shopping fast, and all in all I did pretty good. I did buy a couple of cotton tank tops that I took on vacation, but that was at about day 35 so I figured I was pretty close :) My tanks from last summer were nowhere to be found and I knew I'd need something cool to wear in the 90 + degree tems in Florida.

Now that the Fast is over, I feel more educated and aware of the hold shopping had on my life. Instead of spending my free time shopping, I was able to get a lot of things accomplished this past month that I had been putting off. I also learned to appreciate the clothes and belongings I have on an entirely different level. I made new outfits from old tops and bottoms that I had never thought would go together before. I seriously feel like.......responsible or something. (Gasp!). I know that my husband is proud of me, and that really counts for a lot in my book. He even said the other night "Why don't you treat yourself to some shopping since you haven't bought anything in awhile?" I told him that I didn't need to. I have everything I need right now :)

That was my entire point with the Shopping Fast. I wanted to remind myself that shopping should be on a "needs only" basis, not just for "whenever I want." I'm going to continue to limit my spending, and also continue to give only handmade or secondhand gifts to others whenever feasable.

During my Shopping Fast, I hosted a Swap Meet where some friends came over with clothes and books that they were tired of. We borrowed and gave until pretty much everything was gone! Some things we will return to each other after awhile, and other things we just gave away for keeps. Cool huh? Here are a couple pics from the event.

We went around and held up our belongings so everyone could get a good look at each stash o goodies. We had to bring in extra tables and chairs because of all the stuff!!

Check out all those goodies on my bed!! Thank you to everyone who participated!

Two of the beautiful swappers :) Good job ladies. We had a great turnout!

The idea behind the swap party was so that women could experience having something new without having to shell out any cash. We are all family in God's house, so why not share with each other?

Check out this video I found of professional Swap-a-holics :)

These women are from a website called Swap.com and it's basically an entire network dedicated to Swapping. Wouldn't it be cool to do something like this at the Osage Center or somewhere here in town? What do you guys think?

I will keep you updated on when the next Swap Meet will be held. I'm already planning one for the Fall so we can all get geared up for the new school year :)

Family Vision

Do you have a vision that you live for each day?

Scripture has this to say:

Proverbs 29:18:

"Where there is no vision, the people perish."

I believe in this scripture. A couple of years ago I was basically a leaf blown by the wind. I had no purpose for my life. I just went where ever the “wind blew me.” I got up, I went to class, I came home, I did nothing.

I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and I had no purpose. This caused me to go through a time where I was almost lifeless. Then I came across Proverbs 29:18. This scripture kept coming up. My family kept talking about it, I read it in several books, I heard someone preach on it… Then suddenly it just clicked.

I needed a reason to get up each morning. I need a purpose so I could spend my days productively. This is why I think having a vision is so important.

I labeled this post family vision but, your vision does not have to line up with your other family members. It can be your own personal vision and one that you might share with your own family someday.

This is my family’s vision that has become my own personal vision.

Our vision is:

Love³  iKAN Love³  -Love³ stands for Love God, Love yourself, and Love others. iKAN stands for Influencing Kingdoms And Nations. So our vision means to Love God, Love yourself, and Love others to Influence Kingdoms And Nations to Love God, Love themselves, and Love others.

What are some of your family/personal visions?

I pray that each of you seeks God until He gives you your own vision! I then pray that you live each day focused on your vision!

Check back tomorrow for my last blog post! It will be a Fashion Friday post.

Thank you for your support!

Love, Kathleen :)

Say You’re New

Has anyone struggled with the transition from a non Christ follower to a sold out Christ follower? If you are like me, you certainly have!

I was always so confused. I constantly struggled with the fact that my sinful nature always wanted to take control. I keep thinking how can I really be saved?

I actuality I got saved 5 years before I became a Christ follower. For 5 years I said I was a Christian but I had no idea what that really meant. I never really showed Christ’s love through me because I had no idea what it was. I tried to set a “good example” but I think I confused a lot of people and myself.

When I finally realized that being a Christian was less about religion and going to church and MORE about having a relationship with Jesus it changed my life!

I would like to share with you a scripture that has helped me through this journey tremendously!

2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”

 I came across this one day and just sat in awe! God sees me as a new creation! He does not see all my sin and my past mistakes, instead he sees me as a new creation!

I hope all of you can realize that you a new creation in Christ! Proclaim it to the world! Do not let anyone from your past try to make you feel bad for your past mistakes. You are a new creation. They only remember the old you. Know the truth so that when you run into one of your old friends you can be a witness to them.

Here are some additional resources I would like to share with you on this subject.

ID in Jesus blog- this blog is done by my older sister. Her blog is all about helping people learn about their identity in Jesus. I encourage all of you to check it out! Here is the link to her blog: http://sheriyates.blogspot.com/  

The book Faith Food Devotions- this book is filled with wonderful daily devotionals that will stretch your faith so much!

I pray that you all realize the wonderful creations you are in Jesus! I pray you go out into the world and preach the good news!

Have a wonderful day! Please feel free to leave me feedback as I come closer to the end of my guest blogging! :) Thank you all!

Love, Kathleen