Bookish.

I love people watching in Barnes and Noble. I think it's interesting to see what kind of book people pick up.

Here's what I observed yesterday afternoon at B&N.

A Grandma scanning through a  "GED for Dummies" book.

A pimple faced teen reading in the "Anime" section.

Two college girls drinking iced coffee and flipping through fashion magazines.

A woman about my age in the "Romance" section.

A Hipster-looking couple in the "New Age" section.

An unsupervised Hispster-looking child playing with Lego's.

And the tallest man I've ever seen reading a bathroom remodeling book.

The neat thing about people in a book store is that they're all there for one general purpose: To Read. No matter what kind of book they're interested in, I think it's just awesome that they're interested in reading, period. I would never judge these fine folks by their reading material, because who knows, maybe the Grandma is trying to help a friend finally get a High School degree. Maybe the kid in the Anime section wants to become an artist and is studying technique. And that super tall man is probably trying to remodel his bathroom for his lovely wife before Valentine's day.

I'd say, if you are looking for a new friend, probably the best place to find one is at a book store. You can't go wrong with a friend who likes to read.




Shirt: Old Navy. Scarf: Target. Jeans: Kohls. Bag: Target. Glasses: Warby Parker. Wedges: JCP

 Wondering what section I was reading in? That's a secret my friends. You'll just have to wait and find out.

Sex Before Marriage.

You might not know this about me, but I think it's an important reason why I have become the person I am today: I got pregnant before I was married.

There. The secrets out!

While I never intended to have sex before marriage, it just happened. And actually, I'm sure it's happened to a lot more "christian girls" than you think, they just haven't been caught because they didn't get pregnant.

While I do strongly believe that God intends for sex to be between a man and his wife, I know that I'm a sinner, and so are you. We all mess up. That's the cool thing about Grace. That's the amazing thing about Forgiveness.

If I hadn't gotten pregnant, I wouldn't have the best kid in the entire world sitting in my lap right now. I honestly probably wouldn't be married, either. God had other plans, didn't he?

I like to think that my past has helped mold me into the woman I am today. And, not to pat myself on the back or anything, I think I'm a pretty cool person. Dorky, but cool.

I have just had this message on my heart for awhile now. If an event from your past makes you cringe every time you think about it and you get this guilty or ashamed feeling inside-----just stop right now. You are an amazing, unique individual that God crafted in His image. He knew we'd screw things up, that's why he sent His Son. So don't be ashamed of anything. Just curl up in the Father's lap and tell Him all about it. He's there, waiting to hear all your crazy, embarrassing stories. He's there, waiting to forgive you.



Polka Dot Blouse: NY&Co, recent purchase, bought with a Gift Card. Cords: Kohls. Booties: Macy's.

 Another cool thing about Love and Forgiveness, I can wear crazy things like this polka dot blouse. And those that matter in my life, really don't mind. And those that do mind that I'm wearing this crazy polka dot blouse, really don't matter. Thanks, Dr. Seuss.

Timid

Nobody likes to be teased.

I live in a semi-small city. Even though it's a college town where you would think that people are "hip and cool," Cape Geezy, MO is a little behind when it comes to fashion. Mullet skirts, harem pants and fur vests are not welcome, let's just put it that way.

I have really blossomed the past year with my wardrobe (in my opinion, anyway!) and I love what I put on almost every morning. So for someone to say "is that what you're wearing?" or "do you really think that looks good?"----stings, just a bit. I go back to that fourth grade insecure feeling and want to hide behind my mom's legs.

This outfit raised some eyebrows the other day--but I loved it. The skirt is super comfortable, and I love sweater tights. Niiiice and cozy.

I guess the grey tights, leopard flats and brown tee threw people off. Or maybe the high waisted skirt?? I honestly can say I'm not sure why this outfit was questionable. Do you think I look like a crazy person? Maybe I'm in denial.



Tee: Gap, favorite fit. Mini Skirt: J. Crew super sale! Sweater tights: Target. Flats: Target.

 If I've learned anything over the past year, it's that I can't keep contemplating if what I'm wearing looks "acceptable" or not. Everyone has differing tastes and preferences. I have to be ME and love ME. I hope you'll do the same. Wear what you love, what's comfy, what's honest.

"A true friend loves at all times." Proverbs 17:17

Life Lessons from the Road

Driving appx 2600 miles from Seattle WA and back home to MO, I learned a few things.

Lesson 1: When you have a 30 minute layover before your next flight, you need to run, not walk.

Lesson 2: Seattle is cold and rainy, but very hip and relaxed.

Fish Market in downtown Seattle.

Lesson 3: Cape G needs a landmark, like Seattle's Gum Wall.

Daniel and I at the Fish Market, in front of a giant, disgusting wall of 30 years worth of chewed gum.

Lesson 4: Best dinner of the trip, eating oysters and watching cable TV in our hotel room in Squim, Washington :)

Daniel looking out onto the Discovery Bay in Squim, WA.

My first view of the mountains in Squim, WA.

Lesson 5: Do. Not. Panic. When you're driving through the mountains and it's snowing and all the road signs say "Chain Tires Here." Worrying about the roads doesn't make the snow stop. And actually, the snowy mountains are beautiful.

Snowy Mountain Drive.

Lesson 6: Ruby the Subaru can and will hit 30mpg on the highway...yeah baby!

Lesson 7: Bison Rib-eye Steak = Absolutely THE best steak in the world. Don't be surprised if I serve buffalo and my next supper gathering.

Holding the glorious Bison Menu.

Lesson 8: Yes, Montana is cold in November. Taking your coat off for an outfit photo should last no more than 1 minute before frost bite sets in.

Dinner attire in Montana requires tough boots and a Southwestern style belt.

Lesson 9: Always stop for National Landmarks, such as Mt. Rushmore and the "real" General Lee.

Lesson 10: Spending time alone with your husband is essential to a happy, healthy marriage. Coming home and seeing your son after time apart is equally amazing.

Want to see more pics from the road? Check my facebook later today!

A Lesson in Layering and Airport Security.

As you know I'm taking a little trip soon, but I haven't been on a plane in FOREVER, and I've NEVER been on a plane when it's cold out. I am not checking a bag, just bringing my trusty carry-on; so I need to pack light. The key to fitting more into my suitcase is by wearing my bulkiest layers on the plane to save room for the rest of my clothes. I'm going to be doing a lot of layering here, so stay with me! :)

Step 1: The Baselayer.
I'll be wearing my coziest, comfiest tunic sweater and jeggings. I'm also wearing flats that are easy to walk in and slip off at airport security. I've pinned back my bangs so they don't get in my way, and I'm wearing the rest of my hair in a low, loose pony tail that's on the side so I won't hurt my head when I lean back in my seat.

Step 2: The Jacket.
This is the only jacket I'm bringing on the trip. I cinched in the waist with a southwestern style belt so it doesn't look too bulky.

Step 3: The Vest,
This vest is a must for my trip. It's versatile and will add some warmth to the rest of my layers. Can't you see it with a funky top for a night out in Wyoming??

Step 4: Hat, Scarf, and Mittens.
Finally, I add all my cold weather accessories and tah dah! I'm ready for my flight! I can remove any item at any time and add them to my carry on. I personally want to be bundled up for my layover in Denver, and then to my final destination--Seattle!

Tell me, how do you dress for the airport? Do you like to layer up?

Sanity Saving Monday Tip: Stress Relief 101

I have a problem with stress. I don't usually notice that I'm stressed until it's to an extremely severe level, like last week. I was feeling so stressed that I was starting to get snippy with everyone around me--including John! Poor guy. Yes he's two and obviously knows how to cause a few grey hairs, but that doesn't mean I can lose my cool with him. Discipline should NEVER come from an anger, but from love and a desire to correct behavior in a Christ-like way. I could talk about discipline all day but let's get back on subject --stress relief.

What's causes stress? My stress comes from having too much "stuff" going on. Projects that build up over time from either procrastination on my part or from several deadlines being thrown at me all at once. I like order in my life and when things get hectic, it's hard for me to know how to deal with that sometimes.

This week I had deadlines with my day job, deadlines with my side job, school work to do, and for some reason my house seemed to get in extreme disarray over the course of two days. When I'm busy and not at home as much as I'd like, my house goes to sh....well, you know.

So what's the solution? Quit my job? Hire a cleaning lady? Yeah, right. As much as I'd like to, that's not feasible for my family. Here's how to, as we like to say in my house, "slow your roll" when things get kinda crazy. P.S.....urban dictionary rocks.

1. Draw out a time line to accomplish your goal. I had a story due on Saturday for the newspaper, and I knew I wanted to spend at least some of Saturday doing fun things with family. So when I got my story assignment Thursday, I wrote out a little time line that looked sorta like this:


Thursday evening after dinner and when John's in bed: Research online for story
Friday afternoon after work: Make at least two contact phone calls for story
Saturday morning when John's playing at Mom's house: make rest of contact calls, sit down and write story, submit story by 12:30 so I can go to lunch with family.

So I simply broke up all the work that needed to go into that certain deadline so that everything wouldn't all be left for Saturday right before the story was due to my editor. That made Saturday morning run smoothly so I could reach my personal goal: Spending lunch with  my family. Basically once you get set time lines for your work stuff you can then do the things you REALLY want to do. Does that make sense? By accomplishing your "need to" deadlines in a timely manner you can then do the fun stuff.

2. Ask for help. You need a support system. Someone who is there for you when you need help getting things done. Don't ALWAYS try to do everything yourself. I don't care how strong you are, you'll eventually get way too stressed. My husband and my mom are two of my best supporters. They know my dreams and goals and know that everything I do is for a better life for me and my family.

At the beginning of the week, I didn't utilize my support system. I knew I had all these deadlines coming up and didn't share with anyone that I needed help. I wanted to have a perfect house and dinner on the table every night and all my homework and studying finished...all done through my own power. First off, pray for God to help you get things done. Tell Him your schedule, and give Him your anxieties. You'll instantly feel refreshed and focused. Next, tell someone in your support system that you're stressing. Towards the end of the week, I knew I needed to ask for help so I could get everything finished. I called my Mom and asked if she could watch John Saturday morning for a couple hours so I could do some housework and finish my story. I also apologized to Daniel for being so stressed and not coming to him for help. He stepped in and helped with some of the housework so I would have more time for my story. He also sent me flowers, which was so sweet and much appreciated :) Sometimes husbands know just how to make your day better!




Pretty fall colors!


3. Don't bite off more than you can chew. JUST SAY NO THANK YOU! I know we all have this Wonder Woman mentality that we can be all that everyone needs. Well, you just can't, ok? So get that out of your head right now. That voice in the back of your mind that says "oh man, I don't really want to do this but I guess I'll say yes because I'll look like a jerk if I don't" AHEM.....just say no thank you. Listen to that voice. Actually, if you say no to people every once in awhile, they'll respect you more in the end. Don't believe me? Read this book.

There's three little tips that work for me when I'm stressed, but might not necessarily work for everyone. Sometimes a nice hot bubble bath and a glass of wine can calm even the most stressed of ladies. Just slow your roll, woman!

What are some things that you do when you know you have a stressful week coming up? Please share! Have a good Monday, friends!

"My Job Sucks" and other things you really shouldn't say to the universe.

Raise your hand if you hate your job.


Now raise your hand if you were too embarrassed to raise your hand before but still hate your job.


Ok, Good. Now raise your hand if you have ever had a job that sucked but now are truly doing something you love.


I estimate that pretty much everyone falls into one of the three categories above.


Probably college/highschool students who work at Taco Bell fall into category 1. (Taco Bell is just an example, and I'm not implying that everyone at Taco Bell hates their job. Someone who works there has to love it, or else they wouldn't still be in business.) Anyway, category 1 folks hate their job and aren't afraid to admit it because, honestly, they know and their boss knows that they'll eventually quit and go onto something they love.

The people who slide into category 2 are a little more reserved. There are recent college grads, middle aged folks, and senior citizens who are all reluctant to tell anyone that they hate their job but secretly do. They are basically just working for a paycheck. Or benefits. Or both. They work because they have to, not because it's their DREAM JOB or because they grew up knowing that they would someday be doing this specific profession. They have a family to provide for, and are humbly working so that their loved ones can have a great life.

And then there's category 3. Those few select individuals who are blessed enough to be doing a job that makes them want to get out of bed in the morning. It's a job that makes them truly happy. THE job of a lifetime. What more can I say? These people are so happy they make me a little sick, or jealous, or both.

Now, I'm not going to tell you which category I fall into, I'll let you speculate on that one.

I'm writing this for those category 1 and 2 folks. Those friends who are still fantasizing about their dream job that may or may not ever actually happen.

The point is, God has us where we are for a reason. We are working for a greater purpose, not for our own. If we are constantly complaining about our job and about what we're doing here on this earth, do you think that's fulfilling God's purpose? Or being in any way a loving, joy-filled, Christ-like example? What about your co-workers who don't know Christ...how is you being in a crappy mood going to lead them to the Lord?

I'm right there, friends. I'm the one with the ugly frown on my face, reluctantly doing things on a daily basis because I have to.

But everyone has those days where they are tired. They just want to give up and quit and move to a remote island and harvest coffee beans all day.........What? You don't have that fantasy? It may not be farming or moving to a remote island but you have a fantasy of your own. That "dream job" fantasy. Take heart, my friends. God is not going to leave you hangin'. You may not see the point of it all currently, but God's going to use you where you are, right here and now.


Here's a little song to encourage you, because it encouraged me. Yes, it's Steven Curtis Chapman, and yes it's a little cheesy. But hey, he's like THE contemporary Christian music Godfather so show him some r-e-s-p-e-c-t. Listen to the actual words of the song, because they will make you feel better about where you are and why you're doing-what-you're-doing.

Don't just work; love. Have a great day, everyone.

Sanity Saving Monday Tip: Is it really all about the Benjamins??

I hate money. I really do.

I don't like how it makes you take for granted what you already have.

I don't like how it competes for affection.

I don't like how it's used in poor ways.

I don't like how it makes me feel.

Money makes people feel snobby.  It can make you feel inadequate, unworthy, or sub-par. Money seems to do more harm than good, I'd say. But we need money, right?

I need money to pay bills.

I need money to feed my coffee addiction.

I need money to give gifts.

I need money to conduct business.

Wouldn't it be great if we didn't need money to do all those things? If we could just pay for goods and services with other goods or services?

I actually heard someone say recently "When I have a car I like, then I'll feel like I'm on the right track. When I have a job that pays what I want it to pay, then I'll have it made." Do you see something wrong with this? Me too.

I hate how money makes people feel like they aren't as good as everyone else, or that they haven't "made it" to where they want to be.

I've been thinking a lot about money lately. It takes money to get into the real estate business like my husband and I are currently trying to do. We have to have a down payment to buy a rental house, then we have to have a loan from the bank to make improvements on the property, then we have to find the best interest rate, and so on and so forth. Money money money. Can I just vent a little here and say that I don't like all this? I mean, does growing up really have to be about moving "up" as well? 

What if all the money we made, actually went to someone else, instead of to "move up" in our business? Who says we can't be satisfied with what we have? Why do we need more and more and more?

My Sanity Saving Tip: Don't let having money or the lack thereof make you forget what your purpose is. Share Jesus. Give to those who need. If you have more, give more. Do your part in sharing Christ's love.

Pray that you can conduct your business in a manner that is wholesome and humble. Don't get too far ahead of yourself.

Stop, smell the flowers, and think about the best way to utilize your money.

Have a good Monday, friends.

Sanity Saving Monday Tip: Scheduling Scare

You all know that dreaded feeling I'm sure.....you're suddenly reminded of an appointment that (gasp!) you had forgotten to write down! I felt that way this morning when my boss told me we had an evening meeting tonight, which we NEVER have evening meetings so I can't really blame myself too much for having forgotten. Anyway I'm glad I didn't double book myself because that's something that I hate doing....cancelling  because of a scheduling error. Here's my planner for the week, and it's pretty full as you can see.

VBS every morning, work in the afternoons, dinner with family 3 nights, birthday celebrations, coffee meetings, and somehow fitting in blogging.... Phew we're busy!

Last night I kept waking up thinking that I'd oversleep and miss VBS, or that I'd forget my costume, or my lines....ahhhh! Can you say anxiety? I finally had to get up and get out my Bible. I talked to God and gave Him my schedule for the week. Everything I do, I want it to be in His hands.

Sometimes we over-book ourselves, or get caught up in our appointments and meetings and forget who's really in charge. We have so much going on that we forget what we were actually put on this Earth to do. God doesn't care how many clubs you're in, or meetings you attend. He wants ALL of you, not just the tired, worn out, end-of-the-day cranky you. He should be the main thing we make time for, because everything else is just extra.

My Sanity Saving Tip: If you have a busy week, and you feel overwhelmed with your schedule, give it to God. Things will not only go more smoothly, but chances are you'll sleep better and feel more relaxed.

What's your week look like? Hope you had a good Monday, friends! xoxo

Are you a lady? Then act like one.

Do you feel like it's too much work to have guests in your home? Do you have certain friends that you would rather not visit because you will end up working instead of enjoying being a guest? Have you ever punched someone in the face for texting during dinner? (I may or may not be guilty of that last one hehe...)

I've had so many conversations about etiquette the past few weeks I wanted to share some of my favorite resources on the subject. This in no way means that I'm an etiquette expert, because I'm a young mom and wife so I'm learning as well. These are just some bits of information that have either been passed down to me from my family, or that I've read through research. I know of some lovely ladies that are going to be very proud of this post :)

So, let's get to it. Here is my list of Top 10 Etiquette Tips and the reasons behind them. Also included are some lovely books and websites to check out. Don't take my word for it, hear what the experts have to say!

TIP #1: Don't be afraid to ask for help, in moderation.
When you're having guests in your home, it's perfectly acceptable to ask them to bring a dish to accompany your dinner. Do not expect that guest to help with any of the other dinner preparations. They are a guest and should feel relaxed (and not feel forced to help further). It is alright to ask them to help with clean-up, but nothing extensive. If they want to put their dish into the dishwasher that's fine, but don't make them stand over the sink and wash the burnt cheese off your casserole dish. This is YOUR home, YOU invited them over, so YOU take on the responsibility of the work. Actually, I find it's best to do the clean-up after all the guests are gone so they don't feel compelled to help me at all.

Of course, during instances of illness or newborns and things of that nature, it's alright to ask guests to go the extra mile. In those circumstances the reason they are there is to help, so let them.

“Etiquette is not about impressing people, it is about using kindness, courtesy, and respect in every part of our daily lives.” - Melenie Broyles of Etiquette Saint Louis

TIP #2: Be sensitive to your guests' preferences.
If you are having a dinner party, and there are people in attendance who are uncomfortable with alcohol being served, DON'T SERVE IT. Having alcohol with your dinner is not nearly as important as connecting with your guests. It is also courteous to ask before hand if your guests have any allergies, or meal preferences. If they don't eat meat, that doesn't mean you can't serve it, but you should make a few extra vegetable-only dishes so they don't feel uncomfortable, or leave your home hungry.

"Have a dinner that is well planned, well prepared, and welcoming." - The Etiquette Scholar

TIP #3: Don't answer a call, or text, or surf the Internet, or LOOK at your phone at the dinner table. Period.
It's rude and inconsiderate. Need I say more? See the Huffington Post's Top 10 Cell Phone Etiquette Rules.

The only exception to this rule is if you're at our monthly SEMO Bloggers Meeting :)

TIP #4: Don't text, or email, or facebook, or tweet anything you wouldn't say to someone face to face.
If you're too afraid to talk about the subject in person, chances are it could be offensive or hurt someones feelings. If you have something you need to get off your chest, think first of the other persons needs, then your own. Look to the Bible for this one, folks:

"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." Ephesians 4:29.

TIP #5: For Pete's sake, write a friggin' thank you card.
Society has definitely let this important and polite gesture fall to the waist side. I have been to one to many weddings and/or baby showers in the past few years and not received a thank you note for my well thought out gift. To me, this implies that my gift was expected, and one should NEVER expect a gift from anyone. I don't care what the occasion. I remember when my mother would sit down and make me write out notes to all my friends who came to my birthday party, simply thanking them for their attendance. Young Moms out there: Teach your kids to write notes. It says a lot for their character, and your parenting skills.

Do you think that I'm being too old fashioned here? Check out Emily's Post for when to send a thank you card. She's a lot more strict about it that me.

Speaking of gifts, I'm probably about to offend some people on this next tip. And I will say that for my baby shower, I was guilty of this etiquette "Don't" as well:
TIP #6: It's rude to put where you're registered, or that you want "Gift Cards Only" on your event invitation.
Are you feeling offended and shocked? Ok, hear me out on this one.

I'm not saying that it's wrong to register for gifts, I'm just saying that you should not put it on the invitation. If someone wants to get you something from your registry, they can call the hostess to find out where you're registered. I'd say probably 80% of the time people do not get you gifts from your registry. Elderly people see it as a hassle and also as rude. (Don't believe me? Ask my Nana) Also, for people that can't afford a gift at all, they will feel that they should not come to your shower or party because they can't afford to get you a gift, and because you've indicated where they want you to buy from they feel like they are inclined to do so. This is WRONG. You're having this shower or party to celebrate your wedding, or your new baby, and to share excitement with those you love. Expecting a gift in return for that is just not right. Of course people will bring you gifts, but saying "Gift Cards to Target Only" is like saying: "If you get me something else, I won't like it or appreciate it." What the crap?

I did put where I was registered on my baby shower invitation, against my mother's request. After some research, I don't think I was correct in doing so.

I know you're thinking that if you don't indicate where you're registered, you'll get a whole bunch of stuff you don't want. Ever heard of a return policy? Utilize it. It's far more important for your guests to feel comfortable and have fun than worry about getting you a gift.

Ok. I know that was a little harsh. Here are some resources of other people who agree with me. Some think that it's acceptable to put where you're registered on your shower invitation but not your actual wedding invitation......I'm not sure that's appropriate either but whatever. Now you know my opinion about registries but don't think that I'll hate you and not come to your shower.....just know that I probably won't use your registry :) I like to give gifts that I think are special, or that are handmade and from the heart.

• Tried and True: Wedding Registry Etiquette
• Life Tools for Women: This site says that it is ok to include on a baby shower invitation where you're registered, but it is not recommended. Registry should be shared by word of mouth so as not to offend anyone.
• Listverse: Top Ten Lost Rules of Etiquette. Check out number 7.

TIP #7: Don't throw around your money, or lack thereof.
This could also be included with "no name dropping." Whether you have money or properties or a thriving business or know someone who does, don't promote what you have or what your friends have in conversation. Money talk used to be taboo back in the day, but now people just like to pat themselves on the back for a job well done instead of giving God the glory or lifting others achievements higher than their own. Also, don't you just hate it when someone says "My friend on the City Council" or "My brother in law's best friend owns 5 banks" and the like? Doesn't that just make them seem.....rude? I don't know, this one is tricky because we all like to tell a good story or talk about our recent achievements. It's honestly probably just safer not to talk business or money at all. What do you think?

TIP #8: Tweets and Facebook Status' should not tell your whole life story.
Please don't announce on Facebook that you hate life and everyone around you. Please don't tweet about the fight you had with your husband. While you're at it, please please please don't upload a picture of your tongue down someones throat. Be discreet. Be kind. Be sincere, but don't reveal everything. Share your problems or anxieties with those closest to you, not the entire universe. I'm not saying be fake, because I've definitely tweeted "having a bad day, could use prayer" before. I'm just saying that in the end people will respect you more if you are discreet with your emotions.

TIP #9: Do something for someone unexpectedly, and DON'T expect anything in return.
Have you ever been invited to someones house, and then thought "Oh, geez. Now I need to invite them over." Or, "I gave her a birthday gift, can't wait to see what she'll get for me!"? I'd say the majority of us have. I have a problem myself with accepting gifts from others and then making a mental note to repay them. True friends, who give out of love, should never expect anything in return. (except, for maybe, a handwritten thank you note!) This is about changing your entire perspective on giving. We have become a society full of selfish motives. Once you begin to change your thoughts on giving, you will see that your true reward is not on this Earth, but in Heaven. Don't expect to be rewarded for giving. Expect to be loved.

Check out this sermon from my pastor, Dan Greene, on Fixing Fractured Friendships. He talks about valuing people over possessions, and notes that other believers are to be considered and treated as family.

TIP #10: Don't just preach your opinions; live them.
Really, just be yourself. Live a life that is glorifying to God, that thinks of others as more important. My motto:

"Don't be selfish; don't live to make a good impression on others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourself. Don't just think about your own affairs, but be interested in others too, and in what they are doing." -Phil 2:3-4

Etiquette is not about impressing people. It's about making others feel comfortable, secure, and valued.

Remember, I'm not perfect either. I fail everyday. Pray for God to show you the difference between what's appropriate and what's not in every situation.

Is your opinion different than mine? I want to hear from you!

Love you all, have a good Wednesday,
Les

Sanity Saving Monday Tip: Don't Get Too Excited, Kid.

When I was a kid, the night before a big event I would stay awake for hours in anticipation for the next day. Even in high school I remember not sleeping at all the night before one of my plays, or a speech and debate tournament. (I know, I know. I'm a dork, ok? And I like it!)

 Lately, I've been getting excited about a lot of things going on in my life and needless to say I have not been getting much sleep.

We've got several projects we're working on in our business and in our family life that we need prayer for. Nothing major, just some things that we're hoping to accomplish in the next few months. I don't want to get too excited for these things, because some of them might not even come to pass. I just wanted you guys to know what's going on so that if I don't blog for a day, you'll know that it's not that I don't love you, it's that we're flat out busy. And I'm sleep deprived so I need to catch up on some much needed ZZZ's.

So, my Monday Tip is: Don't freak out and get too excited for things that might not even happen. Just keep focusing on what you KNOW is truth, and what you NEED to be doing in order to be successful and for your family to be happy.

If you're like me, it's hard to get an idea out of your head once you latch onto it. My advice is to get busy doing something you love, so that you're not focusing 100% of your attention on something that might not even happen. Read a new book. Work on a new craft. Bump up your exercise regimen. Get your mind on things that you KNOW.

Also, remember that "Our Lord God is a sun and shield. The Lord gives grace and glory. No good thing does He withhold from those who walk in His path." Psalms 84:11.

That's all you need to know right there. As long as you're following JC, he's not going to withhold anything good from your life from happening. Comprende, amigos?

Oh, yeah. Don't forget that tonight is SEMO BLOGGERS first meeting! See ya at Calix at 6pm!

xoxo,
Les

Sanity Saving Tip: Must...Read.....Now....

Hope everyone had a great holiday weekend! I'm taking the day to recover from the festivities and catch up on some work stuff a bit, but I do want to share a couple of newish websites and blogs I've been following that are fantastically amazing and you should definitely check out. Not only are these great reads, but they also offer products or contests that are super fun.

1. Lauren Nicole Love. In a raw, unedited, love-filled way, this woman speaks to me. She has a passion for the world, for women's rights, for Christ. I'm convicted, convinced, and changed by her writing. Read her stuff. Now.

Also, check out her work on the Good Woman Project. More amazingness. You would never guess that this woman is only 23 years old. Crazy, I know!


2. Lauren's boyfriend is also a writer; Make It Mad by Max Andrew Dubinsky. Guy's point of view on pornography, sex, women, Jesus and all of the above; combined. Make your boyfriend or husband read this. Today.


3. From the love of both the above, check out their artwork....for sale. Signed prints to help them on their cross-country journey:

my choice. $40.00 to help these two with gas money is so worth it to me. They share love everyday with their writing, so I can share a bit as well, and nab a sweet new photo for my bathroom.


4. What I Wore. Fashion talk from a real sweetheart. This girl is seriously so nice. I of course have never met her but I can just tell through her writing, ya-know-what-I-mean? Her new book comes out TODAY so I'm buying it, TODAY. Can't wait!

Jessica Quirk, holding her new book, in an outfit she created using a dress as a top and an old skirt. Clever, huh? She also sews and makes her own clothes sometimes....love! She and I could be long lost sisters.



Anyway if you're having a slow day like me and have time to check out these sites, please do. You won't regret it.


Oh, and did I mention I'm now on Twitter? "Welcome to the Dark Side" --- words from @BobbyClubbs.

Sanity Saving Monday Tip: Homemade Laundry Detergent

I'm feeling a little lazy and un-inspirational this morning, so I don't have any original tips from my brain to share with you. I did find this site that has 10 Homemade Laundry Detergent Recipes that I thought I'd share because this is my project for the week! I'm tired of spending so much on laundry detergent--it's expensive, huh? So when I hear "less than a penny per load" for these recipes....I'm all for it. Since I have well water and it's a little discolored at times (I've heard well-water can take up to three years to clear completely) I might need to tweak my recipe a bit and add more washing soda (the ingredient that does the majority of the cleaning.) I'm going to slowly try all 10 of these recipes until I find the one I like best, but here's the first recipe that I'm going to try this week. I'll post pics of my progress and let you know how it turns out.

Recipe #1 (that I'm trying this week!)

1 Quart Water (boiling)
1 Bar of Soap Grated (I'm using Ivory
2 Cups of Borax (found in the detergent isle at Wal-Mart)
2 Cups of Washing Soda (found at Ace Hardware on N. Kingshighway)

1. Add finely grated bar soap to the boiling water and stir until soap is melted. Turn heat down to low once melted.

2. Pour the soap water into a large, clean pail (I'm using a 5-gallon bucket) and add the Borax and Washing Soda. Stir well (I'm using a painting stick) until all is dissolved.

3. Add 2 gallons of water and stir until well mixed.

4. Cover the 5-gallon bucket and use 1/4 cup for each load of laundry. You will need to stir each time before using because the detergent will gel-up.

And that's it! Sounds pretty easy, huh? I'm thinking of adding some essential oils (like lavender or tea-tree oil) to add a bit of a pleasant smell, but they're pricey ($9.99 at Hobby Lobby) so it's something I'll have to think about.

Have you tried homemade detergent before? Do you feel like your clothes actually come out clean and stain free?

A Place for Everything and Everything in its Place.

My mom used to say that phrase all the time. Before we would entertain guests, she'd run around the house like a mad woman cleaning, organizing, and "placing" items strategically to get noticed. She always had fresh flowers for parties, saying that flowers "Created Calm." One thing I noticed she never did was set a table scape. We always had a buffet-style dinner where we would fix our own plates and then sit down. I still prefer this method when we host parties, but for everyday I like to set the table for my family. Daniel's grandmother Carmela Hazelwood actually was the first person to show me how to properly set a table.

This is a simple table-setting with the everyday necessities, a knife, fork, and napkin. The salad bowl is placed in the center of the plate. This is how I set my table on a normal weeknight with no guests.

Here is Grandma Carmela's table in full view, with the serving dishes in the middle, ready to be loaded up with deliciousness :)

Here is a formal place-setting, created by Daniel's mom Cynthia. This is how she sets the table for family gatherings and holidays. Salad fork and dinner fork on the right, knife and spoon on the left. Napkin on dinner plate, salad bowl to the left, and drinking glass to the right.

I don't think it's necessary to set the table EVERY night, but I do think it's handy to know how in case you'd like to. What's your method for dinner night? Do you grab your plate and go, or set the table for your family?

I've had these pictures saved on my computer for awhile now, and occasionally I have to glance at them just to remind myself that I'm setting the table correctly! Feel free to save these pics on your computer too, who knows when you might need reminding!

Sanity Saving Monday Tip: Text vs. Call

Last year when I started text messaging, I was excited to get out of the dark ages. I know everyone has been texting for years, and I used to text before I was married, but to save money my husband and I opted to not text for awhile. After many questions and hurtful remarks of "Why didn't you text me back?" Or, "Don't you have text, I've tried to get in touch with you three times now!" we decided it was within our budget to start texting again. Also my husband has customers who actually prefer to text for service calls instead of taking the time to call him.

Text messaging has the upper hand when it comes to convenience, but there are instances when calling is more appropriate and polite. You wouldn't send a text saying "OMG, Aunt Edna is dead".......or would you? What about sharing moments of joy; "I'm engaged!" or, "It's a boy!" Sometimes text messaging comes in-between what should be special moments of sharing joy, or sharing pain. We have become reliant on text to let our spouses know we love them, or tell a friend "Happy Birthday." What about a nice, old fashioned phone call?

I'm guilty here as well. I'm too busy sometimes to tell a friend hello, or ask how their new job is going. With a text I can still let them know I care, without taking the time to call them. So.....does this not negate the gesture of kindness? Am I in fact saying that: "I DO want to know how you're doing at home with your new baby, but I DON'T want to take the time to call you because it will probably take 20 minutes I don't have."

I know you guys have some thoughts on this.....let me know what you think. What's your "Code of Ethics" on texting vs. calling?

My Sanity Saving Tip: When in doubt, take the time to call. Hearing your voice means more than seeing a typed message.

Sanity Saving Tuesday (oops) Tip: Vacation Keepsakes

The last thing I wanted to do on vacation was think about souvenirs. You all know I LOVE shopping, but I DO NOT like shopping in Souvenir shops. And I greatly dislike souvenirs. Don't kill me....but I think they're tacky. What am I going to do with a sea shell puzzle? Or an over-sized t-shirt that says "I Heart Gulf Shores?" No thank you. Just enjoy your vacation and PLEASE don't get me anything.

Right before I left on vacation, Martha emailed me this tip on making an As-You-Go Vacation Keepsake. Genius! No need to buy any souvenirs when I can make my own!

Here's the handy little keepsake Martha made. She packed a hole punch and a small loose-leaf ring. As she collected postcards or maps on her trip, she attached them to her ring. When she got home she added pictures and a label to the front. Adorable! Here's the one I made:

I used mostly pictures in mine, but also a napkin from a restaurant we ate at, a prayer card Daniel's aunt gave me, and the business card of the car dealer we met on our trip. (I'll go into more detail on that when I post the vacation pics)

Today's Tip: Don't waste your vacation away worrying about buying something to remember your trip by. Take a couple pics, save a few postcards, and enjoy your vacation!

Family Vision

Do you have a vision that you live for each day?

Scripture has this to say:

Proverbs 29:18:

"Where there is no vision, the people perish."

I believe in this scripture. A couple of years ago I was basically a leaf blown by the wind. I had no purpose for my life. I just went where ever the “wind blew me.” I got up, I went to class, I came home, I did nothing.

I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and I had no purpose. This caused me to go through a time where I was almost lifeless. Then I came across Proverbs 29:18. This scripture kept coming up. My family kept talking about it, I read it in several books, I heard someone preach on it… Then suddenly it just clicked.

I needed a reason to get up each morning. I need a purpose so I could spend my days productively. This is why I think having a vision is so important.

I labeled this post family vision but, your vision does not have to line up with your other family members. It can be your own personal vision and one that you might share with your own family someday.

This is my family’s vision that has become my own personal vision.

Our vision is:

Love³  iKAN Love³  -Love³ stands for Love God, Love yourself, and Love others. iKAN stands for Influencing Kingdoms And Nations. So our vision means to Love God, Love yourself, and Love others to Influence Kingdoms And Nations to Love God, Love themselves, and Love others.

What are some of your family/personal visions?

I pray that each of you seeks God until He gives you your own vision! I then pray that you live each day focused on your vision!

Check back tomorrow for my last blog post! It will be a Fashion Friday post.

Thank you for your support!

Love, Kathleen :)

Say You’re New

Has anyone struggled with the transition from a non Christ follower to a sold out Christ follower? If you are like me, you certainly have!

I was always so confused. I constantly struggled with the fact that my sinful nature always wanted to take control. I keep thinking how can I really be saved?

I actuality I got saved 5 years before I became a Christ follower. For 5 years I said I was a Christian but I had no idea what that really meant. I never really showed Christ’s love through me because I had no idea what it was. I tried to set a “good example” but I think I confused a lot of people and myself.

When I finally realized that being a Christian was less about religion and going to church and MORE about having a relationship with Jesus it changed my life!

I would like to share with you a scripture that has helped me through this journey tremendously!

2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”

 I came across this one day and just sat in awe! God sees me as a new creation! He does not see all my sin and my past mistakes, instead he sees me as a new creation!

I hope all of you can realize that you a new creation in Christ! Proclaim it to the world! Do not let anyone from your past try to make you feel bad for your past mistakes. You are a new creation. They only remember the old you. Know the truth so that when you run into one of your old friends you can be a witness to them.

Here are some additional resources I would like to share with you on this subject.

ID in Jesus blog- this blog is done by my older sister. Her blog is all about helping people learn about their identity in Jesus. I encourage all of you to check it out! Here is the link to her blog: http://sheriyates.blogspot.com/  

The book Faith Food Devotions- this book is filled with wonderful daily devotionals that will stretch your faith so much!

I pray that you all realize the wonderful creations you are in Jesus! I pray you go out into the world and preach the good news!

Have a wonderful day! Please feel free to leave me feedback as I come closer to the end of my guest blogging! :) Thank you all!

Love, Kathleen